A Gracious Wife


As a new bride I had every intention of being the absolute best wife, and to be honest it felt like I was doing a pretty good job of it at first. I had been working on my wifey skills and studying relationships since I was in my early teens. I felt very confident I was ready for marriage.

People warned me of the trials of the first years of marriage and told me to brace for when the honeymoon was over. However, for Jason and I life together felt natural, I can’t think of a thing I  would have changed. Granted we had moments where we did not agree or became annoyed with each other, but those times few and far between and rarely caused an argument.

Through out our first years of marriage I was far from the “perfect wife” but my husband didn’t seem to notice and I kept working at it faithfully. After 4 “perfect” years of marriage, we welcomed our sweet daughter into our world. We both just stared at her for days marveling at her perfection. Little hands, her tiny nose and beautiful eyes…….. we suddenly understood the miraculous love that all those parents were were trying to explain to us.

Then it happened. The perfect little wife fell apart. The thing about marriage and especially parenthood, is it brings to light our imperfections.  My husband’s happy, servant hearted, make up done and legs shaved everyday wife disappeared and was replaced. The woman who lived with him now, had permanent dark circles under her eyes, drowning in laundry and dishes and had very little patience for him, like I’m talkin none.

However, after the newborn stage started to fade into infant and we started to get into a new routine that included more {at least a little more} sleep. God started to showed me how I was acting, and how it was affecting the one person I loved the most, my husband. God has been teaching me many things these past months but one of the main things God has been showing me is the importance of my husband and my attitude for him. Drawing close to God I started to realize not only was my body and brain tired, so was my soul. When I started leaning on God’s strength and not my own my world began to change. The need for grace in my life became more apparent. The more I experienced God’s grace the more I want to show it to my husband. You can only truly be a gracious person if you understand your own need for God’s grace.

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So here is my perspective of what a gracious wife looks like.

  1. A gracious wife easily forgives mistakes, imperfections and wrongs. Not only of her husband, but also his friends and family. She also knows the wisdom of forgiving herself. Ephesians 4:32; Colossians 3:13
  2. A gracious wife prays everyday for her husband, his children and his wife. Colossians 1:9
  3. A gracious wife has giving hands and an open heart. Proverbs 21:26
  4. A gracious wife goes about her day cheerfully. Philippians 2:14
  5. A gracious wife speaks with kindness and uses her words to encourage her husband.  Ephesians 4:15
  6. A gracious wife knows how to listen, without interrupting or jumping to conclusions.  James 1:19
  7. A gracious wife is pleasant to be around, she strives for peace in her home. Proverbs 17:1

If you want to bring new life into your marriage and your own heart start by resting in God’s grace. The more you do, the more easily you will be able to give it to your spouse.



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